Life happens. Pouring through inspo this morn I landed on one of my favs. Yes its a beloved #WayneDyer share that fills me every time. Stick with me – you’ll get to see how this rolls out on the other side.
First Wayne’s story ...
I was preparing to speak at an I Can Do It conference and I decided to bring an orange on stage with me as a prop for my lecture. I opened a conversation with a bright young fellow of about twelve who was sitting in the front row.
“If I were to squeeze this orange as hard as I could, what would come out?” I asked him. He looked at me like I was a little crazy and said, “Juice, of course.”
“Do you think apple juice could come out of it?”
“No!” he laughed.
“What about grapefruit juice?”
“What would come out of it?”
“Orange juice, of course.”
“Why? Why when you squeeze an orange does orange juice come out?”
He may have been getting a little exasperated with me at this point.
“Well, it’s an orange and that’s what’s inside.”
“Let’s assume that this orange isn’t an orange, but it’s you. And someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, says something you don’t like, offends you. And out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, fear. Why? The answer, as our young friend has told us, is because that’s what’s inside.”
It’s one of the great lessons of life. What comes out when life squeezes you? When someone hurts or offends you? If anger, pain and fear come out of you, it’s because that’s what’s inside. It doesn’t matter who does the squeezing—your mother, your brother, your children, your boss, the government. If someone says something about you that you don’t like, what comes out of you is what’s inside. And what’s inside is up to you, it’s your choice.
When someone puts the pressure on you and out of you comes anything other than love, it’s because that’s what you’ve allowed to be inside. Once you take away all those negative things you don’t want in your life and replace them with love, you’ll find yourself living a highly functioning life.
Life squeezed me last eve.
I experienced my first real argument with someone I love. In fact I can’t recall how long ago I was in a similar situation – feels like years. This time though Mother Bear was definitely on her hinds, fur splayed all directions, feeling righteously duped over a lack of cooperation to do with one of her cubs. All this outside Sydney Central Rail with suitcase in tow. End of a big day. And heavens forbid there were still a few more kms to travel literally to find my way to unknown accommodation and finally put the day to rest. Yes I was completely done before the day was done with me! Hilarious pic starting to emerge right? Although rest assured, at the time it was anything but.
Bottom line I was hurt and anger, pain and fear came right on out, a spectacular display. Internally I was horrified. Part of me wanted to keep throwing toys out of the cot and yet the wise one (God knows where she emerged from) was looking back at my reflection in a transglass building wall.
She recognised choices to switch this hydrant down. What’s more all the way through to Off. Man that takes determination for the cranky to change direction and follow. It takes will. It takes courage for Humble to step forward. To own where I slipped up. To rock that High valve temp right back to Cool. Hard when in that moment ALL feels like they’re down at the South Pole.
Yet retrieval can be in the matter of seconds. Fascinatingly this was a beautiful demonstration to me only hours earlier. Picture Scene No.2. This time Auckland International Airport, delightful Travelex man discovers no AUS$s to hand in his trusty pull-out drawer. Before he turns around to replenish from the safe, he chirply requests I hold tight. He’s going to make a quick return trip to Australia. Yep you heard me right. 30secs 45 secs it wasn’t long. He turns back with a wad of notes, gorgeous grin and says ‘if only it were that quick and easy’. I remember my infectious laugh rolling forth exclaiming ‘Oh but it is and always will be’. Little did I know I’d need to pull on those very same words and bring them into action directly on the other side of the Tasman – Central Station Park no less – and only mere hours later!
Back to Central Park –
I realise in seconds I have all the choice in the world. First up: Ego needs to be put squarely to the side, no look in! 2nd up: Climb directly into my internal boundaries. Start walking the talk. Here’s what they look like …
Step 1: Call off the call – as gracefully as poss. Big stretch I know in that moment when donned in gumboots, mud and the wrath of hell.
Step 2: Reach out – preferably to a healthy living angel. My next call. And trust me she was the living epitome in every way. Heaven works in mysterious ways!
Step 3: Rest in her presence – the best centring grounding loving reminder ever. Took up to 3mins no more.
Step 4: Turn to heart + Reconnect with love – ahhh 5mins on and remembering again Who I really am. What’s important in life.
Step 5: Turn that hydrant on full tilt – blast the living heavens out of it. There’s always always more where that comes from.
Step 6: Refuse to be anywhere else – that’s it.
Yep, we’re all human. And it’s this easy to give up the struggle. Stop talking about the struggle. Stop thinking about the struggle. Discontinue all dialogue on unwanted situations, experiences, results, the outcome.
Instead turn the coin over or bring out the orange. Think about what you want. Talk about what you want. And here’s the thriller … when you do notice how you transform what happens around you. All for the miraculous best.
Thanks for listening in and here’s an orange for you too. Share. Tag a bestie who needs to see this #soulshares #lifesqueeze #beinghumanrocks