It takes us off track even if it feels we’re all too important with that busyness. Here’s the kicker… Its okay to allow your roll to slow. To keep an eye on the pace today. Truth – we live at a constantly accelerated pace that’s not serving well. It takes us off-track even if we’re feeling all too important with ‘busyness’. Here’s the kicker …
We use busy as an excuse to not create time to check in with others. You know that quality stuff that has us all feeling valued. We make ourselves even busier and justify this as a valid excuse when really all we need and want is to have honest conversations – the closure, reopener, why we pulled away or why we didn’t go there earlier. You know those #youmattertome chats.
Likely we don’t know how to have that chat. We fear rejection ridicule. What happens if we open the proverbial can of worms. Not sure how to deal with that? And what happens if what comes out confirms our even-worst fears, belittles, degrades us further, throws more fuel on our guilt, confirms our not good enoughness? Oh stuff that … let’s not go there, much easier to be busy.
Then there’s courage + vulnerability – where are these when you need them – to step out imperfectly, relay exactly how you feel. Heaven forbid do I really have the courage to invite you into a real chat with me? To create that space in my busy schedule so I can hear what you’ve been going through? Not to fix it, simply to listen. This is really the guts, isn’t it. We’re all so BUSY going through our stuff, how the hell do we deal with theirs. Ohhh I know … let’s get busier instead.
And what say we reach out for that chat and they make excuses to not go there. Boom! Connection really has been lost. Our worst fears true. They start making ‘busy’ excuses we can see right through. More rejection … can’t handle this. I know … time to make myself busier.